Hello fellow travellers of this thing called life.
Have you ever wondered about Enneagram numbers? Have you ever felt like you’re on a never-ending rollercoaster ride called life? One minute
you’re on top of the world, and the next, you’re wondering why you left the house with two
different shoes on. (Hey, it happens to the best of us!) Well, buckle up, because I’m about to
let you in on a little secret that will make navigating life’s ups and downs a little bit (if not a
lot) easier—and dare I say, more fun!

Meet the Enneagram: Your New BFF

Imagine if there was a magical map that could help you understand why you do what you do,
why your bestie is always so chilled, and why your mom can’t stop worrying about
everything. Ladies, meet the Enneagram—a personality typing system that’s here to be your
new BFF.
The Enneagram breaks down human behaviour into nine distinct types, each with its own
quirks, strengths, and growth paths. It’s like having a backstage pass to the show called
“Your Life.” Intrigued? You should be!
Why Knowing Your Enneagram Number is a Game Changer

Understand Your Superpowers (and Kryptonite)

Knowing your Enneagram number is like discovering you have superpowers. Are you a peacemaker who can calm any storm? Or perhaps a challenger who never backs down from a fight?
Understanding your type helps you harness your strengths and work on those pesky weaknesses. (Yes, we all have them!)

Decode Your Relationships

Ever wonder why your partner drives you nuts by leaving dishes in the sink? Or why your colleague always needs to have the last word? The Enneagram helps you see where others are coming from, making those
“aha” moments a regular occurrence. It’s like having a relationship manual that actually makes sense!

Navigate Stress Like a Pro.

Life can throw some serious curveballs, and knowing
your Enneagram type gives you the tools to dodge them with knowledge and
awareness. Each type has a unique way of handling stress, and when you know
yours, you can catch yourself before you spiral into a Netflix binge or an ice cream
coma.

Find Your True North With Your Enneagram Number

Feeling a bit lost or stuck in a rut? Your Enneagram number
can guide you back to your true path. Whether you’re an adventurer seeking new
thrills or a helper who finds joy in supporting others, the Enneagram illuminates your
path to fulfilment.

Real Talk: How Knowing My Enneagram Number Helped Me

Let me share a little story. As an Enneagram Type 8 (aka the Challenger), I used to be the
queen of taking charge. Seriously, if there was a contest for control freaks, I’d have the gold
medal. But once I discovered my type, I started seeing patterns in my behaviour. I learned to
embrace vulnerability and collaborate with others instead of bulldozing through every
situation. Game changer.

Ready to Discover Your Enneagram Number?

So, how do you find your Enneagram type? It’s easy! Start with an online assessment, or
better yet, book a consultation with me. I promise it’s more enlightening than a horoscope
and way more accurate. Plus, we’ll have some laughs along the way because personal
growth doesn’t have to be all serious and stuffy.

Final Thoughts

Life is too short to keep running on autopilot. Knowing your Enneagram number is like
having a cheat code for the day-to-day issues that have held you back. It helps you
understand yourself and others, navigate challenges with knowledge, and find joy in
everyday moments.
So, what are you waiting for? Dive into the world of the Enneagram and unlock the best
version of yourself. Because you, my friend, are worth it!
Stay fabulous and curious,
Debi Dabbs – Enneagram Life Coach

Remember, you’re not just learning about a personality type—you’re embarking on a journey
of self-discovery that will make every twist and turn of your rollercoaster ride a little smoother
and a lot more fun.

Example of Conflict Between Enneagram Type 9 (The
Peacemaker) and Type 8 (The Challenger)
Scenario:

Emma (Type 9) and John (Type 8) are a couple facing a recurring conflict over
decision-making in their relationship.

Emma (Type 9 – The Peacemaker):

● Core Motivation: To have inner peace and harmony.
● Key Traits: Easygoing, accommodating, and often avoids conflict.
● Typical Behaviour: Emma tends to go along with John’s decisions to avoid
arguments, suppressing her own needs and opinions to maintain peace.

John (Type 8 – The Challenger):

● Core Motivation: To be strong and in control.
● Key Traits: Assertive, confident, and confrontational.
● Typical Behaviour: John takes charge of situations and prefers to make
decisions quickly, sometimes coming across as domineering and dismissive
of Emma’s input.

Conflict:

John wants to make a major purchase, such as buying a new car, and decides on a
model without consulting Emma. Emma, who prefers a different model and feels her
opinion was overlooked, initially agrees to avoid confrontation but later feels
resentful and unvalued.

Emma’s Perspective (Type 9):

Emma feels frustrated and hurt because her needs and opinions were ignored. She
fears that expressing her dissatisfaction might lead to a confrontation, which she

desperately wants to avoid. As a result, she becomes passive-aggressive and
withdraws emotionally, hoping John will notice her discomfort.

John’s Perspective (Type 8):

John, valuing decisiveness and control, believes he made the best choice quickly and
efficiently. He interprets Emma’s silence as agreement and is surprised by her later
withdrawal and passive-aggressive behaviour. John feels confused and annoyed by
Emma’s lack of direct communication.

Resolution Through Enneagram Coaching:

1. Understanding Each Other’s Needs:
● Emma (9): Needs to feel heard and valued in decision-making
processes. She desires a harmonious relationship but not at the cost of
her own needs.
● John (8): Needs to respect Emma’s input and recognize that her
peacekeeping doesn’t mean she has no preferences. John should
appreciate Emma’s calmness and patience as strengths rather than
weaknesses.
2. Communication Strategies:
● For Emma: Learn to assertively express her opinions and needs without
fearing conflict. Understand that her voice matters and that
constructive disagreement can lead to better outcomes.
● For John: Develop the patience to listen and consider Emma’s
perspective before making decisions. Recognise the importance of
shared decision-making to ensure both partners feel valued.

3. Conflict Resolution Techniques:
● Schedule regular check-ins where both can discuss their thoughts and
feelings openly.

● Practice active listening and validate each other’s viewpoints.
● Find compromises that satisfy both partners, ensuring decisions are
mutually beneficial.

Outcome:

With Enneagram coaching, Emma and John can learn to appreciate their differences
and leverage them to create a more balanced relationship. Emma gains confidence
in expressing her needs, and John learns to slow down and include Emma in
decision-making. This understanding fosters a more harmonious and respectful
partnership, reducing conflicts and strengthening their bond